Here's the thing, though. I've always been one that says "whatever works" when it comes to babies and sleep. I'm not passionate about co-sleeping. I'm not gung-ho about crib sleeping. I'm just pretty in love with sleep itself. Where ever and however that takes place.
When my babies were all itty bitty, they all slept with me (or on me, actually). All four of them wanted to be in very close contact those first few weeks. It was fine, and it worked for us because we GOT SLEEP!
Then we moved them to the bassinets/cradle/rock and play right next to our bed, where they stayed for various amounts of time (6 mths, 6 mths, 4 mths, and 8 mths). I slept better with them near me, but not in our bed (I'd have nightmares about the baby being under the covers, or smothered by E. I never slept peacefully.) We slept well that way.
We moved them into their cribs when they were too big for their bedside sleeper (or in Isaac's case, when I had to give it back to the person I was borrowing it from). This is where my kids' sleeping split in half. O and Isaac handled the transition well. They were both pretty good sleepers on their own, (Isaac had his fingers to suck for self soothing) and continued to do fairly well in the crib. A and Eliza were/are different. We desperately searched for ways to get them to sleep longer/more, with no avail. Co-sleeping was one of the first things we tried, since it made the most sense.
Guess what. I hate it. Its our only option at this point (long story. Plus, I don't want to have more rocks thrown at me than I have to.) I hate that its our only option. Because its not really "working" either. Sure, she's getting a little more sleep. But, not me.
Co-sleeping at 9 months is NOT like co-sleeping those first early weeks and months. Then- all snuggles, nursings, and sleeping. Now- hair pulling, face grabbing, standing, crawling, and NOT sleeping. Its one of THE most aggravating things- to lay down with your baby, craving sleep, only to be baby finger-nailed in the eye.
3am party time for babykins and mommy? oh, sure. If you were MY FIRST CHILD! What? I can't move an inch, because if I do, it'll wake the
So, tell me this- how is it that my co-sleeping mommas seem so rested? Because, I'm getting very little rest.