I found out today that a friend is miscarrying her baby. Its her first miscarriage.
I remember my first miscarriage. It was a horrible, horrible, experience. I was so shocked, overwhelmed, and hurt. We weren't planning for another child at the time and I had been freaking out a bit over the thought of another. So when I found out that I was loosing it, it felt almost hypocritical to be upset. But, I was. I then went through the whole "it was my fault" deal. What did I eat, drink, or ingest that caused this? (Apparently, this is a NORMAL reaction. My OB said that women blame themselves all of the time.)
Its one of those things that you think "happens to other people". Until it happens to YOU. You find yourself on the inside of a club you never knew anything about or wanted to join. Its quite a shock. I have to say, my first miscarriage knowing I was pregnant, was one of the hardest of the 6.
Luckily for my friend, recurring miscarriage is very rare (1-2% of women). More than likely, she'll go on to have another healthy pregnancy some time soon. In the meantime, I hope her heart heals quickly.